We often talk about relationships ignoring how important good friendship is. Friendships just like relationships play vital roles in our lives. Are you a good friend?
Is your friend a good friend? Read on to find out.
Your Gut is safe
Our guts, and intuition, tend to feel wonky around people who are not good for us. Note, I said intuition, not trauma. Good friendship might trigger past traumas. When triggered we tend to flee the friendships. I suggest seat with the discomfort is it trauma or are you warned?
Your friends should respect you and honour your boundaries. They should also extend this kindness to service people and every other person.
Life does come at you and you will need a soft blanket to wrap you at any moment. Having friends who can provide this kind of comfort and safety is a win. Be friends with kindness.
They set you up for success
Make friends with people who plug you. Show you the ins and outs of life. My favourite part of female friendships is the circulation of knowledge. What oil to use for your edges, where to buy fresh fruits, and which company makes the best sanitary towels?
Honour your love languages
When love languages are mentioned, we think of relationships. It’s equally important for your friends to honour your love languages.
Your beliefs align
Having friends whose life lifestyle, goals, spiritual practices, and eating habits are crucial. Friends who are like you create a sense of community.
You should feel safe, seen and listened to. Create friendships that take time not only to listen to your rants, business ideas, and vacation ideas.
Be the friend you badly need!
Imagine the kind of friend you’d want to be and be them. Do you want a calm friend, to work on your anger? Do you want a good friendship to honour your love languages?
Honour their love languages. Be intentional. Extend the same love you so badly need to yourself. Bake yourself a cake, buy yourself a cake and organize a picnic for one.